Relationships are always more work than anybody cares to admit. I am not saying that a good relationship is impossible or that it is super hard, on the contrary, if both people are on the same page, it is very achievable to have an easy and successful relationship. In order to have a great relationship -and this goes for romantic, family, or friendly-, both people have to put in effort and compassion every day. You know how they say relationships are two way streets? Well, that only means that you both will have to work for the relationship to be successful, find compromises, and support each other to survive life together. All relationships require effort, and sometimes it can be difficult to know where to start. Fortunately, there are several things you can do right now to better your relationship. Here are five of those things:

Communicate Openly

Communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to make sure you and your partner are on the same page. Take the time to really listen to what your partner has to say, and make sure you're expressing yourself clearly as well. It is also important to keep in mind that when you are listening to keep an open mind and judgements aside. If you're having trouble communicating, consider seeing a couples therapist who can help you work on your communication skills. Some things to keep in mind for better communication:

Active Listening

Active listening is a crucial part of communication. It involves paying attention to what your partner is saying and responding appropriately. To actively listen, try the following:

• Give your full attention to your partner.

• Don't interrupt or talk over them.

• Don’t instantly negate their feelings or concerns.

• Ask questions to clarify what they're saying. Don’t just make assumptions.

• Repeat back what they've said to show you understand.

• Listen to their concerns with an open heart and empathy first.

Active listening helps you and your partner feel heard and valued. This can lead to a deeper connection and a stronger relationship.

Honest Expression

Honest expression is equally important in communication. It involves expressing your thoughts and feelings honestly and respectfully. To express yourself honestly, try the following:

• Use "I" statements to express how you feel.

• Be specific about what's bothering you.

• Don’t make assumptions about how your partner feels about what you’re saying.

• Avoid blaming or criticizing your partner.

• Focus on finding a solution together.

Honest expression can help you and your partner work through any issues you may be facing. It can also help you build trust and intimacy in your relationship.

Show Appreciation

One of the most important things that I have learned in my relationship is the power of showing appreciation. When we feel appreciated, we feel valued and loved. Here are three ways that help show appreciation:

Express Gratitude

Expressing gratitude is a simple but powerful way to show appreciation. When Jason does something that I appreciate, I make sure to tell him. I might say something like, "I really appreciate you taking the time to make dinner tonight. It was delicious, and it means a lot to me that you put in the effort." As small as a simple thank you may seem, it can change someone’s day.

Celebrate Achievements

Another to show appreciation is by celebrating your partner's achievements. When Jason or I accomplish something, whether it's big or small, we make sure to acknowledge it. We might say something like, "I am so proud of you for finishing that project at work. You worked really hard, and it shows." By celebrating achievements, you are showing my partner that you are proud of them and that you recognize their hard work.

Spend Quality Time Together

As someone who has been in a long-term relationship, I can attest to the importance of spending quality time together. It's easy to get caught up in the daily routine and forget to prioritize your relationship. Here are a few ways to make sure you're spending quality time together:

• Turn your cell phone off, or at least put it down for a determined amount of time that you will focus on spending only with your partner.

• Plan regular dates It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or expensive. Think about dinner at home with a movie after, going to dinner with the baby, walking around the neighborhood and talking about life.

• Engage in shared activities. Take a night to cook together or to go to a painting class together. It is a great way to share time, but also to learn about each other.

Cultivate Emotional Intimacy

Emotional intimacy is a crucial aspect of any healthy relationship. It involves sharing your innermost thoughts, feelings, and desires with your partner. Here are a few ways to cultivate emotional intimacy in your relationship right now:

• Share personal growth by talking about the things that you have learned about yourself, your goals, and aspirations.

• Provide emotional support by listening to them when they are feeling down or stressed, and offer your support.Be there for them when they need you, and show them that you care. Providing emotional support can help your partner feel more secure in the relationship and strengthen your emotional bond.

Work towards common goals

It is important as a couple to always have something to look forward to and to work towards to. Take out pen and paper, sit down with your partner, and talk together about the things you both want to achieve together, as a couple. Make a plan to reach those goals and check in often to see how you both are doing in order to make that common dream or goal a reality.

These are my five suggestions to better your relationship right now. What are some of the things you do to have a good relationship? Let us know in the comments or through social media!